The Untalked about

Masturbation: the most common act, yet least common talked about. I was pondering this thought while I was reading a book the other day, and mentioned it to my group of friends, deathly silence was the response. Why is this act of self pleasure, so “inappropriate” to society when almost everyone engages in it, at least once in his or her life? ( 70% of women, 94% of men) When I bring it up in a conversation, its about as normal to me as talking about the weather, yet most people aren’t this open to “new” ideas. The fact is, the taboo of masturbation started with a religious aspect, in the book of Genesis. Quick reflection: Onan’s married brother died childless. Onan had responsibility to impregnate his brother’s widow, so that his brother could achieve immortality. Onan wasn’t down with impregnating someone else’s kids, so in the idle of getting busy with his sister in law he “spilled his seed on the ground”. So God took him out. Church saw it, as anytime a guy’s seed doesn’t end its journey in a vagina, that’s a sin. So according to this it’s okay to sleep with your brother’s widow, but not spill the seed. Kind of ironic, I think. Anyways, as I was explaining this to my friends, and also explaining some facts about masturbation, such as it isn’t always easy for women to achieve orgasm during intercourse, and 95% of people can achieve one during masturbation, so its a great way to healthy sexuality. It isn’t taught, nor talked about, but very common, and important in life. Masturbation, as frequent act as it is, should not be a guilty endeavor.

Most people think that if you masturbate, you can’t get any, which is not the case. Finding out by yourself, the type of pleasure and actions that work for you, will improve overall sex life in general. It helps people identify with their sexual needs and also how to satisfy them. Masturbation is completely safe, and helps release tension and can also aid in sleep. It teaches people how to separate love from sex, because having an orgasm with someone, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in love. It can also help with stress and circulation in the body, by releasing endorphins.

As you can see there are many benefits of masturbation, whether or not society shames it or not, it is a purely innocent act, with only good side effects. I think self love should not be ridiculed, and the act itself should be an normal, everyday activity one can enjoy without feeling at fault.

Books used for facts:
Tracey Cox, Hot Sex
Taylor and Sharkey: Big Bang